Yeah, we went through that whole nightmare. The one thing I insisted on early on was NOT using her kid against her Ex. She was definitely on board with it and it was definitely the right path to take. We had bet that at some point in his life, he’d realize we were looking out for him first and foremost. He did at about age 14. I have to admit, the wife and I did take a certain amount of satisfaction from that. And, we didn’t do it at anyone else’s expense. He calls me Dad and I call him Son.This right here. ^^^
I burns my ass when ex’s use kids as pawn to screw over the other ex.
Patience is definitely a virtue in cases like this. Always put the well being of the kid first. If you’re going to fuck up, do it somewhere else, on someone else’s dime/time.